Thursday, March 5, 2015

Snake on a Plane

 As a family our lives have been a little stressful lately. Husband is graduating in May so he is finishing up classes and facing the reality of leaving his current job soon. Minion #1 is in 2nd grade which according to him is "just the worst grade invented and why would they even have it?” (I'm guessing we will get a similar sentiment every year for the next 10 years at least). Minion #2 has the stress of being 4 and so desperately wanting to be 5. All he wants in life is to be 5 and go to Kindergarten, he dreams about it, draws pictures and even has an outfit picked out. It's really too bad that he has a summer birthday and probably won't start for another year.  And minion #3 has the terrible stress of being 2. It is hard to be 2 and insist that the world revolve around you, I simply cannot imagine a tougher lot in life. And I am trying to keep things together for my boys. They are all facing the realities of our upcoming move in their own way, plus, as spring comes, so the schedules increase substantially. Let's add to that traveling for various reasons, a winter that will NOT leave (I swear I want to find that bitch Elsa and wring her pristine little neck), my annual cancer scan to see if  the Thyroid Cancer that I booted really did stay out, and just general life stuff.  So there you have it, stress. 
Among all of this life and stress that has been happening my dear sweet wonderful Grandfather died. So this past weekend I traveled home to attend his funeral. During my travels I encountered many people from many walks of life. Some nice, some...not so much. I would now like to give a shout out to one of the latter.
 So, the following is a letter to the dude that sat next to me on the plane on the way home from my grandfather's funeral. The dude in the airline uniform (I'm guessing pilot?) that was already comfortably seated before they started to heard the rest of the passengers on the plane. The guy who took one look at me, made a noise of disgust under his breath, stood and turned to look at his buddy seated behind him and then proceeded to gesture towards me and make faces as though I could not see him, or as though he did not care that I could see him. 

Dear Dude,
I'm sure that you were hoping for some young hot person to chat up while flying the friendly skies. It must be a huge disappointment to be seated next to a fat aging housewife that has been up since 2 am and looks like death. How frustrating it must be to endure 2 hours next to this pitiful human being. 
You really are quite handsome, and what nice hair you have. Your outfit is pressed and fits you very well. I can see that you take pride in your appearance and I am sure that your employers appreciate that given that when you wear their uniform you are representing their company.
I do not know you or why you are flying today. Perhaps you have had a long day or perhaps your day has been great up until now. I know that it is not going well now because I saw your reaction when I sat down next to you in the seat that I paid for. I heard your sighs of disgust and I saw you stand and turn to find your buddy's gaze so that you could share a laugh at my expense. I was painfully aware of all of this happening. I am not invisible and I am a hearing and seeing person so none of this escaped me. To top it off I am a mom of three young boys so I have kind of a "radar" for such behavior (you might say I have eyes in the back of my head). I know what I would say to my boys if they made a person feel the way you made me feel. What would your mom say to you? 
Are you at all interested in my day? Do you care that I am crazy tired due to layovers and cancelled flights?   Would it interest you to know that I am in a state of longing for my children and husband and grieving for my grandfather who I loved very much?
You know what? I will not bother you with these trivial matters. Because you have been put upon enough today. So do not trouble yourself with the traveler to your left (or right for that matter, I can see he that annoys you as well) I will sit and read and keep to myself that was after all my intention anyway. You should really have a talk with your employers about setting up a standard for the people whose money they will accept. 
I do hope your day gets better,
Sincerely, 
The insignificant blob sitting next to you.
P.S. For what it's worth... I was a little disappointed in my fellow passengers today too. You see, I was hoping to sit next to someone with just a shred of decency and perhaps a little touch of kindness. 



So there you have it. A little outpouring of frustration. Kind of a “release valve” for some of the stress. I’m sure the minions will do something terribly funny or embarrassing soon and I will have a light hearted post coming your way in the very near future. Until then good people...
 Smile at everyone you meet, you never know who it will piss off J !